Thank You Notes: Pardon Me But Your Attitude Is Showing
I know that job search is one of the most frustrating, at times ego-shattering, things a person can go through. You know you’re good. You know you will work hard. Why can’t they see that?
So by the time you actually get to an interview, many job seekers are already stretched thin when it comes to patience or willingness to see things from the other side. But this is exactly what you need to make it through the process.
In a comment on this blog one reader shared these feelings about sending a thank you note:
“How many times have they said ‘thank you’ to us for the time we have taken to see them? NEVER. So no, I do not feel they need another thank you from us. They already got one in person from us. They should be thanking us for making the time to see them. The thank you note rule that is taught to us is a lousy rule. I will thank them a second time ONLY after I am officially hired.”
Look, I totally get why a person might feel this way. But since the employer is the one with the job, maybe a little bending here both in attitude and action might be worth the effort.
Some Things to Consider
First thing to consider is that a thank you note is a nice extra reminder of who you are and that you go the extra distance. In only rare cases will it actually make the difference (sorry, but I never hired anyone just because of the thank you note), but it does leave a good feeling that may help you in your next round of interviews.
And who knows…this could be one of those rare instances. As readers have written to tell me, it does on occasion happen with the right note and situation. At the very least, it can leave a good impression that even follows you after you get the job.
But beyond that, if you walk into an interview with the attitude displayed above, you are probably not in the right frame of mind to give your best interview. One of the hardest things to get job seekers to believe is that we interviewers can feel their underlying attitudes. Even if they “slap a smile on” (as one job seeker said in a comment), that is not the same connection as being fully engaged with the interviewer and letting them see the real you as much as possible.
Of course, if being negative and resistant to what is required to get a job is the real you (an indication of how you might be once you get the job), there is more to think about than whether to send a thank you note!
What About Them?
I know some of you will be upset with me about this post. “Why is it all on us?” “Why can’t they treat us with more respect?” You’re right. The process stinks. In many cases interviewers don’t do all the right things (even when they mean to) and are horribly remiss in getting back to job seekers.
But this is the way work is also. There are many things that won’t go right. How you handle the interview process tells the company how you might be when you work for them. Rise to the occasion and do your best to work with them and not see them as the enemy.
Meanwhile, also do your best to increase your chances by putting that energy into your own resume, cover letter, interview skills and job search techniques. Your best “revenge” is getting a job!
Some articles that might help:
15 Things I Look for When I Interview People
Job Interview Question: How To Handle Tell Me A Little About Yourself
10 Impressions You Leave Behind After a Job Interview
What Goes On Behind the Scenes After a Job Interview?
Help! I Get Nervous When I Interview for a Job
10 Steps To Match Your Resume to the Job
Is Matching Your Resume to the Job Description Cheating?
How Do I Ace My Phone Interview?
Did I Screw Up My Job Interview Thank You Letter?